The ‘Great’ Expectations

“Nobody succeeds beyond his or her wildest expectations unless he or she begins with some wild expectations.”         Ralph Charell

Man has known little endorsement of feelings and thoughts since the advent of times.We are all slaves to our emotions and reasoning, but never learn to acknowledge the sentiments of others.We all lack intuition, and if we acquire it, we have been unable to develop compassion.

“I am not in this world to live up to other people’s expectations, nor do I feel that the world must live up to mine.”                Fritz Perls

Within every heart is a longing for acceptance of its emotions.Every mind is in search of a like-minded.And this is the quest of humanity on earth.We have built us beautiful dreams, of recognition, love, affirmation, kindness, admiration, trust, compatibility, harmony, success, accomplishment, recognition but all seem like castles in the air.Hearts and minds have only longed for feelings and thoughts, never learnt to endow them.What is the purpose of a cloud which fills in with water if it never gives off rain?How can a flower be admired if it never gives off its fragrance to others.To please our emotions and thoughts, we need to submit to the hearts and minds of others.

Keeping expectations is a normal human emotion.If we don’t expect we can’t live, because only after expecting we strive to attain.But the path of expectations is a long one, full of trials and tribulations.Success comes only with patience and perseverance.

“High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.”
Charles F. Kettering

Title page of first edition of "Great Exp...

Title page of first edition of "Great Expectations" by Charles Dickens (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The famous novel “The Great Expectations” by Charles Dickens shows the pain and tests people go through to meet their expectations.It is about a boy named Pip, his expectations in life, and how he meets them going thorough tough trying times.Expecting is a part of human psychology.

Once we start off on the journey of expectations, then onwards all our resultant emotions and thinking depends on their completion or failure.It’s a complicated web of aspirations, we don’t try to live up to the expectations of others, but expect the same from them.

“We love to expect, and when expectation is either disappointed or gratified, we want to be again expecting.” Samuel Johnson

Anticipating from our capabilities, circumstances, fate, time, is not wrong.The problem starts when we start expecting from other people.No two people have fine tuned expectations for each other, and therefore it is impossible to meet what others expect from us.None can ever understand our needs and desires.Therefore they can never honor them.

“Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations.”           Leo F. Buscaglia

Secondly,humans are humans.They have all the conceit, egocentricity within them which doesn’t let them think and feel beyond themselves.We can’t blame them, its totally human to err.There is some amount of selfishness within all of us, there are times when we wanna give our desires and dreams preferences too, and so we all are alike in the pursuit of wishes.
We are sometimes running short of pace too.Making expectations needs our efforts to build them also.Dreams are dreamth,but then made true, they don’t turn true on their own.Whether you expect monetary gains, power, success, domination, love, respect, pride, peace, help, achievement, work double than the expected.Make it HAPPEN!

“You cannot expect the Form before the Idea, For they will come into being together”.       Arnold Schoenberg

“Time is swift, it races by; Opportunities are born and die… Still you wait and will not try – A bird with wings who dares not rise and fly.”       A.A Milne

“The expectations of life depend upon diligence; the mechanic that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools.”         Confucius

Some of us are unrealistic in our hopes.We ask too much from others, beyond their capacities for after all they are humans, and not everyone knows tellypathy do they?They don’t have the power to read minds and hearts.It’s unjustified, therefore we never suceed, they can NEVER live upto our expectations.But still we humans are desperate in the completion of our dreams, we can’t help it.The result is only pain, loneliness,anguish, hopelessness.We need ‘wishful thinking‘.

“It is generally known, that he who expects much will be often disappointed; yet disappointment seldom cures us of expectation, or has any effect other than that of producing a moral sentence or peevish exclamation”.                 Stephen Johnson

Many people think that we shouldn’t expect at all, we should cease expecting if we don’t wanna get hurt.No, to me they figure it the wrong way.Can we distance pain and sorrows from the joys of life?It’s a combination of everything, so pain is an integral part because we are not only spiritual but also physical beings.Hurdles only boost your will to carry on.Pain makes you realize the worth and value of comfort.Pain is immense, but none that humans can’t bear.

“High expectations are the key to everything.”            Sam Walton

An Arctic Tern in flight with wings spread

An Arctic Tern in flight with wings spread (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Effort and hard work is essentially important..Birds travel great distances to migrate each year, they take great pain to travel huge distances to accomplish this task.A bird called Arctic Tern Bird, even travels record distance of 44,000 miles (70,900 km) from one pole to another during it’s annual migration flight, remarkable isn’t it?A birds life doesn’t accept defeat. Instead, it bears all the hurdles to reach the destination and back.No pain or difficulty forces himto cease his flight.He keeps following his desires and expectations.Effort is essentially important to achieve expectations, and a life without expectations is a life to nowhere!

“Uncertainty and expectation are the joys of life. Security is an insipid thing, through the overtaking and possessing of a wish discovers the folly of the chase.”            William Congreve

Then what’s the solution?I am personally a victim to expectations too.So i will say with experience.Expectations can only be heard unsaid, and met, by the CREATOR only.Even those expectations which are related to other humans.This is a fact!Then why should we meet expectations of others anyway, because we don’t get ours fulfilled from them?Typical HUMAN thought!

“We may pass violets looking for roses. We may pass contentment looking for victory.”       Unknown

Credits:Hagit Berkovich

How can we share compassion if we don’t care for others selflessly?Once in a blue moon, we should devote ourselves in the betterment of others with extreme generosity.Charity and volunteer work can eliminate social problems, but psychological problems are equally important.The people in the lives of those anguished by incomplete and unachievable expectations need our help, and support.A peaceful mind can achieve all aims.We can help them to vent out their worries, support them, raise hopeswithin them, and teach them how to be a little more realistic and zealous in their approach towards expectations.Maybe we are ultimately not victorious in achieving our expectations, but attain contentment fulfilling others?

“There is no greater challenge than to have someone relying upon you; no greater satisfaction than to vindicate his expectation.” Kingman Brewster

God is the most benevolent, humans can be selfish at times, but He is our eternal most trust worthy support.In times of need, we need to raise our faith, and believe in Him, that whatever He decides for us is in our betterment, and tough times are trying times, to make us more strong, and to give us a sense of accomplishment.We have a prime responsibilty towards uplifting humanity in all possible ways, and relieving them of their miseries.Let us all strive towards being better and strong individuals, who can also be a strong physical, emotional and psychological support to everyone in need.Keep your expectations realistically, your spirits high, and learn to keep up pace with your expectations.Last and the foremost, trust in God!

“Put your expectations on God, not on people.”        Joyce Meyer


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