Archive | May 2012

Erik Weihenmayer’s Blind Faith

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Life is a challenge, only those with the courage to accept this challenge by will are truly alive.Not everyone reaches the summit of life.The mountain is very steep, there are many avalanches, bad weather, falls and high altitudes.Life is a constant struggle to survive all the hardships and successfully reach the summit.But for some, it is only about escaping from limitations and exploring the boundless self.Those are the ones who make life an endless journey of self discovery, a series of overcoming trials, an expanding list of victories, and their faith rises during afflictions with leaps and bounds.

Some of the survivors of life are those who are met with rigid un-erasable boundaries, which stop them from reaching their thresholds.They cannot stand half way through the mountain when the summit is clearly visible. so they embrace strength, revive faith and break through the verges of inability, reaching out with full devotion to achieve excellence of life,and to experience it by being free, free of all stigma’s and handicaps.It is these few i can see standing on the top of the summit, showing us the snowy paths in the light of their achievement and chivalry, making life easier and encouraging for us.

Erik Weihenmayer is the name of one such valiant inspiration.He is ACTUALLY daunted as the successful climber of the seven summits, the higest peak each from every continent.These include Kilimanjaro (Africa), Denali (North America), Elbrus (Europe),Aconcagua (South America), Carstensz Pyramid(Oceania), Vinson (Antarctica) & Everest (Asia).According to Wikipedia, Erik is an acrobatic skydiver, long distance biker, marathon runner, skier, mountaineer, ice climber, and rock climber.

Erik Weihenmayer speaking at conference in 2007

Erik Weihenmayer speaking at conference in 2007 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

What’s so special about him?Many mountaineers have made it to the Seven Summits!Everything is SPECIAL about him, because he is the FIRST BLIND person to climb Everest to the summit on May 25th, 2001.He became blind due to a genetic retinal disease called retinoschisis which he had since birth, and resulted in total blindness by the age of 13.Still his ambitions to lead a normal life continued.He graduated from Boston University, and proceeded as a middle school teacher and a wrestling coach.He is the author of a book “Touch the Top of the World: A Blind Man’s Journey to Climb Farther Than the Eye can See“.

So in short, he is special, because of his relentless thrust for life.He had a vision,which many people with sight do not have.He was able to see that God doesn’t want him to suffer, he is short of one of his senses, but the rest are probably more efficient than an ordinary person.He knew he had to put in more efforts to prove something, but he was totally capable of it, and that only ambitious, brave, strong-willed, determined, passionate and those who have faith in God and then themselves are worthy of making it to the top, sight is no where in the list, vision is their though.Those who never quit, who are not stirred by adversity, who believe in the Creator, life and themselves, always find the way through the snowstorms.

His story really inspired me, and i decided to share with you all. I sometimes think that the disability of some makes them able.And those like us who are able at times show inability.WHY?Now i think i have the answer….we need to feel as passionately about something we have faith in, and then we need to jump start to meet the challenge and venture our hidden potential to achieve it.Passion and faith embraces able and disabled alike, no partiality….

Erik Talks About the Supportive Team which helped him reach the top:

A video portraying Erik’s journey to becoming the only blind man to have ever sumitted Mt. Everest.:


The Man Who Thinks He CAN

If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don’t;
If you’d like to win, but think you can’t,
It’s almost a cinch you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost,
For out in the word we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will,
It’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you’re outcasted, you are;
You’ve got to think high to rise.
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man;
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.

Poet:Walter D. Wintle

What is it like being a Mother???

“The hand that rocks the cradle
Is the hand that rules the world.”
– W. R. Wallace

My experience of being a mother twice is so beautiful, that i feel i am on top of the world after motherhood.Life is so meaningful.It’s true that it’s a huge responsibility to bring life to this world, and a much greater responsibility of raising it.Starting with the baby blues,  sleepless nights, hectic trips and visits, running after toddlers, keeping their crawly paws as well as the house clean and child safe, the cords, plugs , knifes tucked at places from where you can never find them again, early schooling, emotional and behaviour adjustments,this fun ride has everything you do or don’t ask for….

“By and large, mothers and housewives are the only workers who do not have regular time off. They are the great vacationless class.”
– Anne Morrow Lindbergh 

But, it’s all worth it, every bit of it.Their cute smiles when we hold them in our hands for the first time washes away the pain, their tears melt our hearts, their sweet first words, first steps, childhood assets of photographs, everything gives us more than we ask for or imagined…

I have always been an advocate of attachment parenting, and have also practiced it.My grounds for advocating it are that nature has bound mothers to nurse and feed her kids by default.Who are we to take away this need due to any reasons or responsibilities?Apart from a few genuine cases where mothers are at risk because they are ill, i cannot find any other convincing grounds to deprive a child from his/her right.I advocate co-sleeping of parents with the kids also, because a child feels safe with them, and i had no problems what so ever in raising both my kids that way.A baby’s biological system is identical to his/her mother’s, also a mother carries her child in her womb which is divine decision, for kids develop attachment and closeness to their parents especially mother.It occurs so that a child is taken care of and given a sense of protection and attachment, especially during the early years of life.I do not tend to disagree with all those who don’t accept this theory of Dr. Sears, but i have my practice to rely on.

I do believe in disciplining a child,with love.I had to become the disciplinarian to create harmony and balance with my hubby’s permissive parenting.I just pray that whatever methods of parenting we adopt, we are able to parent effectively, and our kids grow up to become good, successful, happy, compassionate human beings who have sound and strong moral, emotional,physical,mental and ethical foundations.That’s what every parent and every mother aims for, and that is the sole purpose of parenting and motherhood.

Today, my son returned from school with this beautiful writing for his mom on Mother’s Day.My daughter, well she put her part in it when my son showed it to us.She took it from his hands and kissed my portrayal he had made.MADE MY DAY!:)

I cannot say if i am a GOOD mother or a NOT SO GOOD mother.I only know one thing…..i am one!I enjoy every bit of it!It’s not what i boast or roar about, its not my pride, it’s my privilege!

Today on this Mother’s Day, a very dear friend and relationship during childbirth and after swinging between life and death, barely making it to life and unable to utter words at all, clenched a notepad and wrote on it:“I WANNA SEE MY DAUGHTER”.That to me is the utmost definition of a motherly love!Please pray for her recovery….

I want every woman to complete herself, to accomplish motherhood, because that’s what she is made for….but it doesn’t mean that women who cannot be mother’s are not mothers.Motherhood is an asset we are blessed with on birth…those of us who are not mother’s in the literal sense are able to raise kids in foster care, and orphanages as good as a mother can.They adopt and raise noble spirited souls…

I truly believe in the quote:

“Men are what their mothers made them”.     –  Ralph Waldo Emerson

I desire to raise my boy as a gentleman, who honors and respects women, because what good a mother can bring if she cannot teacher her boy to respect her as a woman, and to respect woman as a mother?

For my daughter,i believe to preserve her gentleness and innocence, with confidence and wisdom to face the world one day as another incubator of life.

“A mother laughs our laughter,
Sheds our tears,
Returns our love,
Fears our fears.
She lives our joys,
Cares our cares,
And all our hopes and dreams she shares.”
– Julia Summers

For me,as a mother, i wanna be one of whom Napoleon dreamed for France:

“Let France have good Mothers, and she will have good sons”.    –  Napoleon I

This Mother’s Day, i wanna dedicate the day to those mother’s who cannot be a mother, but they still are, and to Mothers-to-be!!!


Salute to Mothers!

Mother – cannot be defined in words, i will still attempt…..Sacrifice, Patience, Unconditional Dedicated Purest Love, a Prayer and a rewarded Heaven in this World.The love of all the worlds combines into a Mother’s heart.

How i feel about My Mom…..makes me emotional already.Her prayers have always blessed and saved me from the tempest, whatever goodness i have within is hers, she sprinkled a bit on me from her posessions.Never in my life have i seen her wayward, vexed, skeptical.My whole life has been jittering to the beats of her love.She revolves around love, and my love revolves around her.She has been a homemaker all her life – yet her understanding and undertaking of social, economic, moral, situations is remarkable.Every mother has a wonderful fragrance, i believe it’s her love.She has been walking 20 minutes one way every day, in cold winters and hot summers to deliver me my lunch fresh and hot everyday our houseboy was in the market or busy elsewhere of my first few school years.Whenever i used to say that:’Mama, why do you tire yourself everyday?I have no problems with cold food in my lunch box’  she said: ‘…but i have’.Her belief and faith in God has strengthened mine, her love for cooking, baking,cleaning, orderliness inspired me. Now that she has raised her lot of kiddos, she is busy raising grandchildren and her garden of trees, plants, and pots.She never complains about life, she never looses hope,she fights for others rights, truth and justice.She has held on tightly to the foundations of her family, not by being a dictator but a lighthouse, a mentor, a guide.Her advises and wisdom has made me walk the path of life without taking chances and exploring risks.I am gaining nourishment for life from her, she forms the roots of my tree of life….sob,oh God i can go on forever…..LOVE YOU MUMA!She is back home, waiting anxiously for the grand union of her kids.Her heart is always with the ones who are far away.Missing her this mother’s day, a call or VC can never make up a hug and a kiss…

On Mother’s Day, i wanted to talk about a few issues related to mothers.I wonder what are the those burdensome, challenging times when a mother is forced to forsake her child.Which tribulations are those which she is unable to go through, and a mother rejects her own offspring?I can only imagine the agony a mother goes through, how she is tormented, but i can never feel it.A mothers tender heart can’t bear detachment from her child.But the cruel realities of life, poverty, financial conditions, homelessness, and urge for a better future for their kids, makes them kill their motherhood to keep their kids and their future alive.What a great sacrifice she gives, no other human in this world can think of it,but she alone undertakes it.We need equal opportunities of life in this world, where no mother is separated from her child, no child is raised in the absence of their loving mother, where hunger can never surpass love and emotions, where love and motherhood is not cheaper than living, or considered unimportant or low priority.

Then there are those who consider illegitimate child a dark side of their society.The child is shunned, banned and disapproved, not realizing that the parents who brought him/her in this world are the ones responsible for raising him.Such children are considered a taboo, and pushed out of the bounds of civic society.The mothers either leave their kids in deserted places or leave them at foster care centers, without will usually, due to pressures, and with great destitute.The rest of the child’s life is his punishment, he is made fun of,and considered inferior and disregarded.The emotional, educational and social upbringing of such a child is a huge challenge, and to make him a valid and equal part of the society is difficult.What more to it, that their mother’s crave for them forever, and seldom find them back, even if they do their kids blame them and reject them for leaving them to suffer all the years, alone.A motherhood is left devoid, and a mother – deprived forever.

Their are young mothers, who bear children at a very young age, and are unable to support them, as well as criticized widely by families and society.As a result, the kids are given away, or aborted.The trauma she undergoes and how nobody hear’s her deepest heart cry is unknown by others.

Abortion is another painful decision, a mother is forced into.No mother can kill the life within her, which belongs to her.It’s such a cruel world, and such cruel standards that life which exists within the parameters of it’s norms is allowed to survive,while life which doesn’t fit into these rules is left to die, or killed.To me, it’s murder, homicide rather.Mother Teresa raised her voice against this hideous act and crime:

“Any country that accepts abortion, is not teaching its people to love, but to use any violence to get what it wants.”   –   Mother Teresa

“It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish.”   –   Mother Teresa

Next, are the mothers who are taking care of many at the foster care centers, sacrificing attention meant for their kids in exchange of many children who are orphaned, and deprived of their share of love.They have a very big heart, because motherhood knows no boundaries,   sometimes it’s extremely selfish to protect it’s child, and at times extremely generous, as no other heart can feel the emotions of a young one than a mother.

Next, i want to honor the mothers, who are raising disabled, crippled, paralyzed, mentally unstable and diseased kids.It is nerve wrecking and heart drenching to see a part of your own physical self, unable to face life or moving on but unable to catch up with the pace of the world.They address their dependencies on daily basis .Their kids are sometimes called and mostly considered ‘invalids’ by many ignorant, who are unaware of  the hidden strength of these individuals and their mothers, with which they move on everyday, their heads held high.Some are competing with and hurling away mortality everyday from their children,whose small tender painful bodies are running out of life.The emotional plights are colossal, and the physical ardor too is unparalleled.How a mother gains strength and transfer it in her child to make him/her stronger each day is a miracle God blesses mothers with.

Mothers who are single parents also are extremely devoted, one of a kind individuals.Being a mother as well as  father demands efficacy, skills potential and strength.Single mothers are extremely devoted towards their kids, never leaving space for them to feel emptiness in their lives, their larger than life presence fills space everywhere and completely.A single mother’s love and commitment is two folds, and she inspite of loneliness, difficulties, without any help or aids of companionship, with sole ardent steers forward her life, and the life of her kids attatched with her’s.Kudos to such unque, extremely capable, unyielding mothers!
Widow mothers who don’t re-marry and selflessly commit their happiness, desires and wishes towards the sound upbringing of their children are remarkable too.Doing household chores, hectic jobs to earn a living,addressing the needs of their kids whether physical, mental or emotional, keeping social responsibilities and weaving together family ties is not a piece of cake.

Their are a few mothers, who adopt kids, from foster care, of mother’s who are deceased, orphans from within families, and also step kids and raise them as their own, with great compassion and love.Who says motherhood is a blood relation?A mothers orb of love is not unsubstantial or limited.She can encapsulate as many needy of love who desire to be encompassed by it.

Mothers who are raising their kids with chronic diseases and health issues are commendable.Going through pain each day,and not letting it spread around, rather radiating warmth and life is extra-ordinary, REAL compassion,letting go of our torment and melancholy for the happiness of our loved ones is not easy, hiding pain and gathering up strength to fight it each day is paramount.Bringing order in the lives of others, doing daily routine tasks to keep life smooth and running for the family is a magic,which only a mother knows.

Recent century has seen so many homemakers been sent away from homes into ‘Old Age Homes’ or ‘Retirement Homes’, and sometimes in ‘Nursing Homes’ too,especially those who are sick.Parents have been considered as ‘intervening privacy’, ‘hard to manage during illness’, ‘hindrance in social life’, ‘problems and embarrassment inviting friends over’ and sometimes ‘make us miserable’ is what we hear as excuses.What we forget is that it was us who made them miserable when we were little, we trialed their patience, made life tough for them, but they never uttered ill words, never considered us a problem, and instead of being thankful, for their perpetual parenting and motherhood, we reward them with loneliness, abandonment.We desert them and walk out  on them, those without whom we couldn’t walk.Their strong arms and hands caught us before we fell, they taught us how to walk, and we walkout on them.A sad spectacle indeed!Even after so much, they defend us, saying their kids were living in a different state, they had many complex hindrances in accommodating them in their houses, it was their own choice because they don’t wanna burden their kids…We can’t even thank them for a single night they spend staying awake for our comfort, and during our discomfort and sickness, and we in return to their explicit  affections, and undivided attention, give them anguish, disregard, Those who didn’t turn their backs towards us are being ignored and neglected.The caretakers of life, are being left on their own by life itself.

They don’t want to create inconvenience for us.Their age, health, relationship,concern and love demands and deserves respect, honor,    regard, tender embraces, lovable kisses, time, attention, importance.Motherly love is incomparable, but we can show them that they mean alot to us,we will never let them go through pain or suffering alone.Being parents and mothers, they will never feel like childless ever.We will hold onto their hands, just like they did during dentist visits or doctor checkups.We will give them utmost comfort and fond affection, which is what they deserve, infact quite insufficient to what they deserve.We need to cherish this heavenly love, and relationship God blessed us with.No job commitment, family problems, geographical constraints are valid enough to leave this commitment unfulfilled.Leave everything, because you may find it again, but a mother can never be reborn.Our priorities have changed from relationships, emotions, feelings,to entertainment, socializing, relaxation, money-making, luxury hunting.We can never honor life without honouring the personality responsible for bringing us to life, and those who don’t honor life, life never honors them.The eyes which we have been seeking in crowds to gain confidence and strength now seek our rumination.Don’t let them give up hope, don’t give them wounds in these later years of their lives which will never heal.Hold them tightly close to your hearts and whisper softly:”Mama, i salute you and all the mothers of the world!You make us proud, you are our pride, we exist in your existence, our breaths and heartbeats are yours, we can feel the longing within you, we are here, forever, we will never leave you.You are the sunlight, which nurtures us, has been nurturing us.Now…we will create ease in your lives…WE LOVE YOU”…..go ahead say it to your moms, they are the beauty of this world, don’t ruin it, enhance it, and treasure it!

And finally…the mother’s who have left us, just as they are sleeping peacefully in their last abodes, their love has made it’s eternal abode within us, around us, everywhere.We are proud to have been theirs, and proud having them our’s.Hang on moms, we will surely meet!