‘We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.’ – Eleanor Roosevelt
How many of us are strong enough to combat our fears?Fears are deep-rooted and don’t let go easily, except when faced with courage and compassion.Our phobia’s and creeps crawl around like twining vines and surround us.Counting on courage we gradually overcome it. But, it is not that easy as it seems.
‘Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world.’ – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Brooks Dame was a student in high school,when a friend named Jessica was diagnosed with Lupus.Doctors helped her in coming back to life, which struck Brooks.He thought that maybe he could be of some help to similar people in need in one form or the other.It took time, to overcome Trypanophobia – his fear for needles.With some thinking and courage, finally he registered himself in bone marrow donation.
‘We must build dikes of courage to hold the flood of fear.’ – Martin Luther King Jr.
After one year of waiting, he finally was informed that his bone marrow matched to a man in his 30’s, with wife and children, battling everyday with Leukemia.He felt compassion towards a man holding onto what seemed like a chance of survival….hope!He heard his desperate cry for help, his urge to live and desperate attempt to fight death gave him the sunshine which took him away from his fears into a bright world of fearlessness.
‘Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.’ – Mark Twain
He took a few tests, and then in a hospital in Denver, he donated his bone marrow to save life!We can inculcate bravery by being strong and fearless.His phobia was the first hurdle, the complicated donation procedures and the immense pain another….but in the end – he emerged victorious!
Life is never easy on us, not because it loves to ache us, but because behind every good or bad in life, there is a purpose.Sometimes we can see it, sometimes we don’t, but sooner or later we get to know all the answers to ‘WHY’?.At times bearing pain makes us fearless of pain, sometimes bearing pain for others gives us the endurance for pain.Immense pain makes us painless, infact fearless.
‘Fear is an acronym in the English language for “False Evidence Appearing Real”.’ – Neale Donald Walsch
We need to learn from life, instead of cursing it.Everything in life teaches us, improvises us, and strengthens us.We only need a realization, a sensitive heart and the strength to overcome fears.Most of the things in our lives remain unaccomplished because of these unneeded unnecessary fears.
‘Nothing in life is to be feared.It is only to be understood.’ – Marie Curie
Another important factor is sacrifice.Those who can sacrifice for others can eradicate fear through compassion, just like those who can eradicate fear for themselves through strength.Compassion is something which can always be developed in oneself, it is not inherited.It usually develops only when we face pain ourselves, then we start to relate to all those who have faced similar pain in life.Just like Brooks Dame was able to relate to all those in pain when his friend Jessica experienced it.It woke the compassion within, and he sacrificed for a stranger in pain and need by going through pain itself.Sacrifice is an emotion which is not easy to develop, infact i believe it sometimes surpasses the value of the good deed a sacrifice is given for.But sacrifice makes us humane and strong, because we realize that we can lead our lives even without the thing we sacrificed for others.
‘Fear is a darkroom where negatives are developed.’ – Unknown
Let’s overcome our fears to achieve strength and compassion, let’s sprinkle it around us too…Foremost, let’s get rid of this bundle of fears interrupting our affairs and make life easy and enjoyable.Only then we can experience life in it’s truest sense and make it worthwhile for others as well!
‘There are four ways you can handle fear.You can go over it, or around it.But if you are ever to put fear behind you, you must walk straight through it.Once you put fear behind you, leave it there.’ – Donna A. Favors