Archive | August 2012

Hello there Butterfingers!!!

‘I’m not clumsy, – I’m accident-prone!’   –   Daniel Radcliffe

Running down in a hurry, “BANG!….Gosh, forgot that the door was there!”, next in the room panting while making the bed”OUCH!….God this bed hurts!”, dashing in the kitchen with some veggies on the cutting board:”Eeeoooowwww……Where are the band-aids?”. It’s extremely blunderous on such days as well as quite a commotion.I hope at least some of you can relate to this experience, this post is for all you people out there – compassion for the clownish! For some,life is pretty much in control, sophisticated, just as they plan or want it to be and for some,it’s 180 degrees apart.Inept, erratic, awkward…….infact ‘Butterfingers, Klutz, Dolt or Dork’  the word they often use for some clumsy wumsy’s like ME!:)


‘If my life was a song the title would probably be ‘Clumsy’, ’cause I’m clumsy.’   –   Pia Toscano

So we’re odd, but why are we so clumsy anyways….giving it a deep thought i was revealed the following reasons for our misdemeanors:



* Sometimes it’s a physical condition which causes it (Dyspraxia, scoliosis, vertigo, diabeties causes clumsy feet), mostly it’s NOT!

‘Your physicality is this great thing, but it is also the thing that makes you clumsy and limits you in the world, so to speak.’   –   Amy Ray

*We are really poor at  managing time, which leads to mistakes.

*We are always in a hurry.

‘There have been times when I reread – or at least leafed through – something because I’d sent a copy to a friend, and what usually happened was that I noticed dozens and dozens of clumsy phrases I wished I could rewrite.’   –   Peter Straub

*We love taking stress and panic ALOT!

*Life will end if we don’t finish all our chores or deadlines today…

*We usually have our heads  in clouds.It’s habitual for us to think and work at the same time.

*Some are also day dreamers, or deep thinkers.

*We are bad at balance and posture.

No matter what, it all certainly makes us the laughing stock of the town, gives bruises and aches, and a feeling that we can never do anything right.What more, we have extra work load!Cleaning up the mess our clumsiness creates.But you know what, carrying the tradition since childhood, i have no problems whatsoever with being clumsy.After all, it’s not our fault. (Well, not all of it!) Look at the brighter side, we can join the circus clowns whenever we want, we can play JACK and JILL in any play, stumbling down the hill just like that, we have many wonderful characters to relate with like Frank Spencer (Some Mother’s do ‘ave ’em fame) or clumsy smurf, we could become wonderful comedians or mime performers.

‘When I was little, I wasn’t so little. I had a big old round belly and I was really clumsy, but I was super confident.’   –   Natalie Coughlin


Jokes apart, i have also devised a to – do – list for bringing about colossal changes in our weird life’s, where there’s too much of bumping  into things and falling:

*Be confident, even if you gain attention through your awkwardness..chill out!It happens once in a while to everyone, enjoythe comedy life has blessed you with!

*If you exhibit shyness, then you need to get rid of it!

*Remember:DON’T PANIC and DON’T FIDGET!(Reminds me of the line Richard Gere says to Julia Roberts in ‘Pretty Woman’:”Stop fidgeting!’…wonderful movie!)

*Try to manage time in a good way with reminder alarms and sticky notes keeping up pace, so that you don’t have delays to cover all over with usual klutziness…..MAKE IT SNAPPY!

*Take a trip to the doctor’s if any of your medical conditions are making you clumsy.

*Avoid stress, think of something else avoiding thinking things that give you stress.Switch on tv while you work, or whistle a tune!

*Life will certainly keep on going but we can kill ourselves in trying keeping up with our loads of work, especially if we are lagging behind.Leave some work for tomorrow, take a deep breath, and avoid ruining all that you have done already!


*Thoughts and dreams aside!FOCUS!

*Don’t try too hard to avoid blunders, cause in my personal experience the more we avoid trouble, the more it is invited because we start to get nervous.Infront of a crowd, if i try to walk carefully with heals on(I am ACTUALLY really bad with high heals!) –  I ALWAYS FAIL DUE TO THE AUDIENCE CONTINUOUSLY GAZING AT ME!

*Make your house hassle-free, get rid of anything breakable in your house…glasses and vases etc, always wear safety gear helmets etc.

*Face this world with a beautiful smile which says:”I am unique, i dare you can’t be as clumsy as me!” 🙂

In the end, i vow to TRY not to be as clumsy as i usually am, so that the clumsy community is proud of me………YIKES!Ooops, Did it again!Somethings can never change!


Know that the world of created beings

is like pure and clear water, reflecting

the attributes of God.

Their knowledge, justice and kindness

reflects God’s like a heavenly star is

reflected in running water.

Earthly kings reflect God’s kingship.

Scholars mirror the wisdom of God.

People and nations may change as

one generation replaces another;

but the divine attributes are eternal.

The water flowing in the stream

changes many times, but the

reflection of the moon and stars

in the water remains the same.

Meulana Jelaluddin Rumi

(Masnavi 6: 3172-8)

Our Shades of Grey

 ‘Human nature is not black and white but black and grey.’     –    Graham Green

Life is never minus these shades of grey.Objects have dark shadows, happiness has sorrow, there are rain clouds hovering over the sun and humans have both virtue and immorality… basically life is in 3D – blacks and whites, as well as greys.Why? It is an imperfect world, amalgamation of good and the bad.We start our lives with clean white slates – clear in our minds what is the true purpose of this life blessed upon us.With time, the bad- black shades in our surroundings start taking over, and it becomes hard to resist it’s interference in our radicals, the fundamental ambitions and intentions of our existence slowly start crumbling away.We become more and more uncertain about life and it’s real aims, more and more poisoned by evil than good.What remains then, well it’s only a shade of grey – not what we wanted or aimed for.Most of us are basically grey inside out.Some, maybe a little lighter grey and some a much darker one.I believe this has given rise to a world in a state of chaos and confusion, what we once start believed in in our childhood story morals, and what we were supposed to do is not happening anywhere around us.We are kinda bluffing ourselves.Morals, values, right and wrongs, are all decided upon personal levels, and conveniences.Reminds me of a beautifully sung & written song by Billy Joel – an absolutely favourite song writer, composer and singer.



Some things were perfectly clear, seen with the vision of youth
No doubts and nothing to fear, I claimed the corner on truth
These days it’s harder to say I know what I’m fighting for
My faith is falling away
I’m not that sure anymore

Shades of grey wherever I go
The more I find out the less that I know
Black and white is how it should be
But shades of grey are the colors I see

Once there were trenches and walls and one point of every view
Fight ’til the other man falls – kill him before he kills you
These days the edges are blurred, I’m old and tired of war
I hear the other man’s words
I’m not that sure anymore

Shades of grey are all that I find
When I look to the enemy line
Black and white was so easy for me
But shades of grey are the colors I see

Now with the wisdom of years, I try to reason things out
And the only people I fear are those who never have doubts
Save us all from arrogant men, and all the causes they’re for
I won’t be righteous again
I’m not that sure anymore

Shades of grey are all that I find
When I look to the enemy line
Ain’t no rainbows shining on me
Shades of grey are the colors I see

Shades of grey wherever I go
The more I find out the less that I know
Ain’t no rainbows shining on me
Shades of grey are the colors I see

Stepping into this deceptive and baffled world, the truths of life become vague.The difference between black and white seems less apparent and obvious.This is not what is expected of us.We usually forget, that we are not in this world to aim for perfection, we are not perfect! Our lives our given in our own hands, because we have all the capacity to turn this shade of grey into somewhat white again.Our tests are within our endurances.If we keep on mixing white into grey in our palettes, one day, this shade of grey will loose the black dark elements we had once absorbed in us.It isn’t easy, needs alot of effort to turn grey to white, trying again and again, bit by bit, adding more and more truth into the dark dungeons of deception, more honesty into our dishonest self, more factual into the depths of fake, and so on and so forth becoming more and more sure about life and it’s objectives, and ultimately making appropriate changes to achieve that life.We can’t be clear about life until our palette is clear.We are expected to turn the greys of our lives back into the pure whites!If not ideally, because nothing is ideal, than at least life will be much much closer to clarity – the clean whites.

‘When you’re the victim of behavior, it’s black and white.When you’re the perpetrator, there are a million shades of gray’   –   Laura Schlessinger

Our lives in the times of today can be clichéd, that we are all dressed up,but have no where to go.There is no purpose in our lives,wandering all over like gypsies, having no destinations or goals.Our shades of grey are the ones creating this cloud of confusions.Finding a meaningful life would be good enough to give directions to our ventures.Every day is a new day, with a clean slate.New beginnings, new opportunities to change ourselves, and this world.Change will begin from everyone who dares to rewrite their lives, who have the strength to turn the tables,those who can outshine the shadows of doubt with the warm bright sunshine of certainty, who can blow away the dark clouds hovering over truth, who can swap grief with joy, who can outclass agony with solace.Only those deserve this world,who have the wisdom to understand it, power to influence and means to change it positively.

‘Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checked by failure…than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in a grey twilight that knows not victory not defeat.’    –    Theodore Roosevelt

Life would be straightforward, easy and clean once we can tell lie from truth, ignorance from wisdom, love from hatred, man from animal….We have to BELIEVE strongly in what we HAVE to do, before we can actually DO it.We always had the path before us, but it demands a price we are not willing to give.It’s inconvenient, difficult, painful, and doesn’t pay returns as quickly as needed.

‘Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field.I’ll meet you there.When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.’    –   Rumi

So, we are on a path of self-destruction, which is more convenient – we can make choices as to which route can take us better towards self-destruction.It’s easy because we are unaware of the consequences the times will bring.It is human psychology, we realize the worth of things once they are gone forever.But clocks can never be turned back.The sands of time are slipping out of our hands.Our conscience  is very clear about what it wants.We don’t wanna listen to what it has to say.All our lives we try to turn, a deaf ear to the inner voices which haunt us.We need courage to face it, and to transform our lives positively to achieve inner peace and tranquility.Only our intimidating approach is destroying the values which define our civilization.Until we develop the strength to do what’s right, only shades of grey will roam about this earth!

Words to the wise are enough!At least try….kill or cure!

This could kill you softly:

Shades Of Grey
by Monkees

When the world and I were young, just yesterday
Life was such a simple game a child could play

It was easy then to tell right from wrong
Easy then to tell weak from strong
When a man should stand and fight
Or just go along

But today, there is no day or night
Today, there is no dark or light
Today, there is no black or white
Only shades of gray

I remember when the answer seemed so clear
We had never lived with doubt, or tasted fear

It was easy then to tell truth from lies
Selling out from compromise
Who to love and who to hate
The foolish from the wise

But today, there is no day or night
Today, there is no dark or light
Today, there is no black or white
Only shades of gray

It was easy then to know what was fair
When to keep and when to share
How much to protect your heart
And how much to care

But today, there is no day or night
Today, there is no dark or light
Today, there is no black or white
Only shades of gray
Only shades of gray…



To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental

To reach out to another is to risk involvement,

To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self

To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss

To love is to risk not being loved in return,

To hope is to risk despair,

To try is to risk to failure.

But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing is nothing.

He may avoid suffering and sorrow,

But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.

Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

The pessimist complains about the wind;

The optimist expects it to change;

And the realist adjusts the sails.

Poet:(William Arthur Ward)