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“What goes around comes around.”

A wonderful compassionate act of kindness, which gave me hope! Thanks to my fellow blogger – Anubrat Singh Dadhwal!Read on…

A Small Act Of Kindness Can Bring Smile On Million Faces


A great learning and touching story…………….

One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.
Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn’t look safe; he looked poor and hungry. He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you. He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in the car where it’s warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson.”
Well, all…

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Saving LIFE

Today is another day for narrating a true story.In a world of today where less compassion is spared for humans, least can be expected for plants and animals.By no means I tend to emphasis more on the needs of humans, when I state it.But it is a dilemma. When a human who can speak up for his rights and needs is declined, it is considered less likely for cold hearted humanity to take up responsibility of the requirements of other forms of life.
God has been kind to us.He created nature and animals to adorn our world with beauty, love and faithfulness.They brighten up our lives, and when the world turns cruel, they are always by our side.
Once a girl I know was coming back from work with her elder brother in a car. As expected, there were outbursts of traffic, because of rush hours.the car stood at a signal. Everywhere around, people in the cars were tired, drained off and irritated by the slow creeping lanes.Some had kids in the cars crying, desperate to reach home and enjoy television or meals.A few drivers were even
holding their throbbing, aching foreheads.
Traffic started creeping slowly as the signal went green.Suddenly, a young driver switched lane and by-passed all the cars at a high pace.The car stereo was switched on and anyone could hear the music from outside the closed car windows. He gained speed and suddenly the wheels of the car screeched. She became impatient and worried that there might have been an accident, but the long queue of cars in front blocked the view.Suddenly, her eyes caught a glimpse of a tiny puppy limping alongside the road and hiding in the bushes right beside the road.He was whining, terrified and in great pain.



As her car creeped up, to her horror she saw that the driver had fled from the scene in his car.The traffic was going on at a normal flow, there seemed no one who wanted to pull over and see what happened to the poor tiny soul hiding in the bushes.People were too busy and tired to care for a stray puppy, considering him least important at that moment in time.Humanity is growing cruel and ignorant, and we usually do nothing to change this bitter fact.Our priorities have changed a lot, and we have forced all other living things to wither, or wander astray. Life matters to us, but ONLY our own!
She couldn’t bear moving on.She thought that she can never forgive herself if she moved on and let life slumber into a miserable painful death.Her brother also wanted to take a look at the puppy and take him to a vet-nary hospital.They pulled over, got out of the car.The poor thing was hiding out of fear amongst the bushes, and was whining terribly.They got an empty fruit basket from a shop right opposite to the bushes and placed him in it.He was looking with cautious, painful, strange eyes.They took off for the nearest vet in town.Even at the slowest speed they were going, the faintest slightest movement of the car made them hear his shrieks.It was evident there was a fracture.
As they approached the vet, it started raining terribly.The doctor examined him and declared the puppy had four fractures on his left hind leg.It was a sad news, poor thing!All the while during examination, he whined out of pain.It was too much for him, he missed family, felt pain, and strange amongst strangers.
They said that they couldn’t conduct surgery as their surgeon was on leave, so they referred them to another vet.It was a bit far, so they decided to keep him for the night and then take him early morning. The vet prescribed pain killer to go through the night.
When they reached home, their family felt sorry for the pup.They wanted to console him, but it was no use.They fed him, and a quite peaceful corner of a room was declared as his sole property.
Next day, they took him to the hospital.Surgery was conducted, and the leg was cut off as it was in terrible shape.The doctors said a missing hind leg could do, he couldn’t have survived if it was a fore leg, cause he couldn’t get up without a missing fore leg.It really was disturbing and unfortunate for the cute pup.
He stayed at the facility for two days.He was given a good shower, turned bright new, infact he appeared quite dashing.He was a strong breed, tall.When they went to bring him home, he seemed to have missed them.He had developed a loving bond of compassion with his masters, a bond forever, a bond tested and trailed, and a faithful one!
He spent two years with them until he was shifted to a farm because he was a hound breed and keeping him in their neighbourhood wasn’t convenient enough.They still visit him and he runs fast as lightning on his three strong legs to remember the love and compassion they had showered upon him, and to gaze them with his puppy eyes and to love them fondly.
He is a living miracle of life, that God has given us all, to believe in miracles, to consider life the most precious and remarkable gift of God, to become a part of nature’s compassion, and to develop a soft corner for all the speechless lives around there which consider us superior and expect us to promote and nurture life itself, not to end it!All the creatures big or small need us, not to hamper nature’s flow of life, but to help it flow freely till the end of time…
These stray lives need a foster home, a foster care, which is much more than the stray lives they lead.Above all, they need life!

Salute to Mothers!

Mother – cannot be defined in words, i will still attempt…..Sacrifice, Patience, Unconditional Dedicated Purest Love, a Prayer and a rewarded Heaven in this World.The love of all the worlds combines into a Mother’s heart.

How i feel about My Mom…..makes me emotional already.Her prayers have always blessed and saved me from the tempest, whatever goodness i have within is hers, she sprinkled a bit on me from her posessions.Never in my life have i seen her wayward, vexed, skeptical.My whole life has been jittering to the beats of her love.She revolves around love, and my love revolves around her.She has been a homemaker all her life – yet her understanding and undertaking of social, economic, moral, situations is remarkable.Every mother has a wonderful fragrance, i believe it’s her love.She has been walking 20 minutes one way every day, in cold winters and hot summers to deliver me my lunch fresh and hot everyday our houseboy was in the market or busy elsewhere of my first few school years.Whenever i used to say that:’Mama, why do you tire yourself everyday?I have no problems with cold food in my lunch box’  she said: ‘…but i have’.Her belief and faith in God has strengthened mine, her love for cooking, baking,cleaning, orderliness inspired me. Now that she has raised her lot of kiddos, she is busy raising grandchildren and her garden of trees, plants, and pots.She never complains about life, she never looses hope,she fights for others rights, truth and justice.She has held on tightly to the foundations of her family, not by being a dictator but a lighthouse, a mentor, a guide.Her advises and wisdom has made me walk the path of life without taking chances and exploring risks.I am gaining nourishment for life from her, she forms the roots of my tree of life….sob,oh God i can go on forever…..LOVE YOU MUMA!She is back home, waiting anxiously for the grand union of her kids.Her heart is always with the ones who are far away.Missing her this mother’s day, a call or VC can never make up a hug and a kiss…

On Mother’s Day, i wanted to talk about a few issues related to mothers.I wonder what are the those burdensome, challenging times when a mother is forced to forsake her child.Which tribulations are those which she is unable to go through, and a mother rejects her own offspring?I can only imagine the agony a mother goes through, how she is tormented, but i can never feel it.A mothers tender heart can’t bear detachment from her child.But the cruel realities of life, poverty, financial conditions, homelessness, and urge for a better future for their kids, makes them kill their motherhood to keep their kids and their future alive.What a great sacrifice she gives, no other human in this world can think of it,but she alone undertakes it.We need equal opportunities of life in this world, where no mother is separated from her child, no child is raised in the absence of their loving mother, where hunger can never surpass love and emotions, where love and motherhood is not cheaper than living, or considered unimportant or low priority.

Then there are those who consider illegitimate child a dark side of their society.The child is shunned, banned and disapproved, not realizing that the parents who brought him/her in this world are the ones responsible for raising him.Such children are considered a taboo, and pushed out of the bounds of civic society.The mothers either leave their kids in deserted places or leave them at foster care centers, without will usually, due to pressures, and with great destitute.The rest of the child’s life is his punishment, he is made fun of,and considered inferior and disregarded.The emotional, educational and social upbringing of such a child is a huge challenge, and to make him a valid and equal part of the society is difficult.What more to it, that their mother’s crave for them forever, and seldom find them back, even if they do their kids blame them and reject them for leaving them to suffer all the years, alone.A motherhood is left devoid, and a mother – deprived forever.

Their are young mothers, who bear children at a very young age, and are unable to support them, as well as criticized widely by families and society.As a result, the kids are given away, or aborted.The trauma she undergoes and how nobody hear’s her deepest heart cry is unknown by others.

Abortion is another painful decision, a mother is forced into.No mother can kill the life within her, which belongs to her.It’s such a cruel world, and such cruel standards that life which exists within the parameters of it’s norms is allowed to survive,while life which doesn’t fit into these rules is left to die, or killed.To me, it’s murder, homicide rather.Mother Teresa raised her voice against this hideous act and crime:

“Any country that accepts abortion, is not teaching its people to love, but to use any violence to get what it wants.”   –   Mother Teresa

“It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish.”   –   Mother Teresa

Next, are the mothers who are taking care of many at the foster care centers, sacrificing attention meant for their kids in exchange of many children who are orphaned, and deprived of their share of love.They have a very big heart, because motherhood knows no boundaries,   sometimes it’s extremely selfish to protect it’s child, and at times extremely generous, as no other heart can feel the emotions of a young one than a mother.

Next, i want to honor the mothers, who are raising disabled, crippled, paralyzed, mentally unstable and diseased kids.It is nerve wrecking and heart drenching to see a part of your own physical self, unable to face life or moving on but unable to catch up with the pace of the world.They address their dependencies on daily basis .Their kids are sometimes called and mostly considered ‘invalids’ by many ignorant, who are unaware of  the hidden strength of these individuals and their mothers, with which they move on everyday, their heads held high.Some are competing with and hurling away mortality everyday from their children,whose small tender painful bodies are running out of life.The emotional plights are colossal, and the physical ardor too is unparalleled.How a mother gains strength and transfer it in her child to make him/her stronger each day is a miracle God blesses mothers with.

Mothers who are single parents also are extremely devoted, one of a kind individuals.Being a mother as well as  father demands efficacy, skills potential and strength.Single mothers are extremely devoted towards their kids, never leaving space for them to feel emptiness in their lives, their larger than life presence fills space everywhere and completely.A single mother’s love and commitment is two folds, and she inspite of loneliness, difficulties, without any help or aids of companionship, with sole ardent steers forward her life, and the life of her kids attatched with her’s.Kudos to such unque, extremely capable, unyielding mothers!
Widow mothers who don’t re-marry and selflessly commit their happiness, desires and wishes towards the sound upbringing of their children are remarkable too.Doing household chores, hectic jobs to earn a living,addressing the needs of their kids whether physical, mental or emotional, keeping social responsibilities and weaving together family ties is not a piece of cake.

Their are a few mothers, who adopt kids, from foster care, of mother’s who are deceased, orphans from within families, and also step kids and raise them as their own, with great compassion and love.Who says motherhood is a blood relation?A mothers orb of love is not unsubstantial or limited.She can encapsulate as many needy of love who desire to be encompassed by it.

Mothers who are raising their kids with chronic diseases and health issues are commendable.Going through pain each day,and not letting it spread around, rather radiating warmth and life is extra-ordinary, REAL compassion,letting go of our torment and melancholy for the happiness of our loved ones is not easy, hiding pain and gathering up strength to fight it each day is paramount.Bringing order in the lives of others, doing daily routine tasks to keep life smooth and running for the family is a magic,which only a mother knows.

Recent century has seen so many homemakers been sent away from homes into ‘Old Age Homes’ or ‘Retirement Homes’, and sometimes in ‘Nursing Homes’ too,especially those who are sick.Parents have been considered as ‘intervening privacy’, ‘hard to manage during illness’, ‘hindrance in social life’, ‘problems and embarrassment inviting friends over’ and sometimes ‘make us miserable’ is what we hear as excuses.What we forget is that it was us who made them miserable when we were little, we trialed their patience, made life tough for them, but they never uttered ill words, never considered us a problem, and instead of being thankful, for their perpetual parenting and motherhood, we reward them with loneliness, abandonment.We desert them and walk out  on them, those without whom we couldn’t walk.Their strong arms and hands caught us before we fell, they taught us how to walk, and we walkout on them.A sad spectacle indeed!Even after so much, they defend us, saying their kids were living in a different state, they had many complex hindrances in accommodating them in their houses, it was their own choice because they don’t wanna burden their kids…We can’t even thank them for a single night they spend staying awake for our comfort, and during our discomfort and sickness, and we in return to their explicit  affections, and undivided attention, give them anguish, disregard, Those who didn’t turn their backs towards us are being ignored and neglected.The caretakers of life, are being left on their own by life itself.

They don’t want to create inconvenience for us.Their age, health, relationship,concern and love demands and deserves respect, honor,    regard, tender embraces, lovable kisses, time, attention, importance.Motherly love is incomparable, but we can show them that they mean alot to us,we will never let them go through pain or suffering alone.Being parents and mothers, they will never feel like childless ever.We will hold onto their hands, just like they did during dentist visits or doctor checkups.We will give them utmost comfort and fond affection, which is what they deserve, infact quite insufficient to what they deserve.We need to cherish this heavenly love, and relationship God blessed us with.No job commitment, family problems, geographical constraints are valid enough to leave this commitment unfulfilled.Leave everything, because you may find it again, but a mother can never be reborn.Our priorities have changed from relationships, emotions, feelings,to entertainment, socializing, relaxation, money-making, luxury hunting.We can never honor life without honouring the personality responsible for bringing us to life, and those who don’t honor life, life never honors them.The eyes which we have been seeking in crowds to gain confidence and strength now seek our rumination.Don’t let them give up hope, don’t give them wounds in these later years of their lives which will never heal.Hold them tightly close to your hearts and whisper softly:”Mama, i salute you and all the mothers of the world!You make us proud, you are our pride, we exist in your existence, our breaths and heartbeats are yours, we can feel the longing within you, we are here, forever, we will never leave you.You are the sunlight, which nurtures us, has been nurturing us.Now…we will create ease in your lives…WE LOVE YOU”…..go ahead say it to your moms, they are the beauty of this world, don’t ruin it, enhance it, and treasure it!

And finally…the mother’s who have left us, just as they are sleeping peacefully in their last abodes, their love has made it’s eternal abode within us, around us, everywhere.We are proud to have been theirs, and proud having them our’s.Hang on moms, we will surely meet!

The Greatest Sarifice

Today, i would like to introduce you all to one of the most inspiring and compassionate person i came across in my life.Utterly dismayed though, for i never got to know who he was! One day, i went out shopping with my uncle.On our way back he said he had to pick something he had given in a repair shop, which was in a small but very busy market.The narrow, winding roads curving here and there reflected desperate faces, a little dismal and sweating, trying hard to sell whatever they had to offer.There were road side tuck shops, hawkers, street sellers and mongers hovering around our car.My uncle parked the car on the roadside and went to pick the stuff from the repairshop.I preferred to wait in the car, because actually i was more interested in the hustled bustled surroundings.There were more pedestrians than traffic because the lane couldn’t cater to heavy vehicles, also people had to park the car and walk, because it was a real narrow street.I started taking a look at the mob around me, surveying their expressions and actions while they were busy shopping. Some were busy bargaining, while some were making there minds about what to buy.Mothers were busy trying to catch a hold of their kiddos which were all over the place, scared they might get lost in the crowd.It really was a busy marketplace, small but had almost everything imaginable to offer.

Right besides our car, on the right was a lane.People were moving to and fro.I was looking at a few kids sharing candies and also fighting over their uneven distribution, when from behind them,i saw a man approaching the main street.He was busy talking to himself, with outbursts of laughter, unaware of the world which was moving on at its own pace.It was evident he had some sort of mental disability, because he had completely torned off all the clothes on him and was roaming around aimlessly, with literally no clothes on him in the cold weather.He was barefooted, with dust in his head, overgrown beard, a middle aged man left on his own.I felt sad, his eyes showed fear, and pain, which he didn’t even knew he was experiencing.I was tormented by his shabby condition.What can make a person loose control of himself to such an extend?What might have happened in his life, so as to make him loose his mind completely?

I was awe struck.This world which was at ease roaming around paying little or no attention towards him, was responsible for his condition.It is a cruel cruel world, which hurts, aches, tortures and plagues and then……then leaves us on our own devices, either to live miserably, which is similar to not living AT ALL, or to die – unwanted, unloved, unconsoled…..like a garbage can set in a corner, or a dog left outside to die of cold and hunger, and yet there he was curbed to living a life worst than an animals, even dogs don’t deserve that?It was miserable!I felt sick!I was guilty, regretful, ASHAMED!I felt so low, that i couldn’t find myself even in the deepest dungeouns of ignorance.His condition made faces at our dignity, it was a disgrace to humanity, and an embarrasement to all those around him.Even more shameful was the fact, that even i was amongst the notorious!I sat there doing nothing!I couldn’t think of what to do!

Credits:Christian (CLUC)

And then…out of the blue came a sweet exemplary gesture, of an invisible man.A young guy, probably in college, appeared walking on the scene and stopped near him.He seemed to be from a lower middle class family, making the ends meet with lots of effort and hard work.He was dressed in ordinary clothes, and wore sandals in his feet.He stood there observing the shabby condition of the man, as if he also was figuring out or trying to figure out what to do!After a pause, he started taking off his shirt, and next…..i saw him putting it on the mentally disabled!He moved on, dressed only in a tank top in the freezing cold, as humble as he was before, as if nothing happened! I was amazed, glad and embarrased, for not having thought of anything to comfort the ailing soul, not even as little as he did!

I was still not over the goodness of his little compassionate act that i noticed, that the dumb, numb world around him, started to notice something,but unfortunately, it was not the greatness of his compassion, rather a guy roaming about wearing a tank top in the cold weather, which was SOMETHING to laugh about.There were strange, sarcastic looks and smirks, and some even giggled with foolishness.Some can never learn compassion, their conscience is not conscious!No one saw the greatness of a young man, in his act of kindness, there was a message, his act was a mirror which showed us our own ugly faces, and the harshness and insensitivity which has completely overwhelmed us.

No one ever thought that maybe it was the only nice shirt he had, and that the mentally disabled man might have torn that one apart too in another fifteen minutes or so, but he took a small step, of care and concern.Much more could have been done, but never occurred to anyone.We wail over deadly diseases like cancer but we leave those with serious, long term, treatable mental disorders to bear the pain and torment forever!Just because its painstaking and difficult to devote time to such people?Because we are too self absorbed to care about others and we will begin to think about it only once we’ll develop one such disease?

I would wanna leave you all in the end with the goodness of this little deed of compassion, to hang onto, until you yourself gather your strengths to bring about a much bigger one around you!I will also be inspired forever by that gem of a person, and i promise to my heart to feel the emotions of others every time i feel mine!Believe, that there is goodness and good people out there,and till they are world is still worth living in.We need to join hands with them and prove ourselves worthy of being called human!

Why Compassion?#%&!

I hope everyone had a wonderful day today.I am sure everyone out there has loads and loads of compassion and compassionate stories to share with those who need it!

Why i started out a blog about compassion?Well, i feel and see enough amounts of insanity, hatred and brutality going around everywhere in this world and i am sure you all do, to make us long more and more for compassion.The world is literally going over the edge with selfish, ruthless, merciless, heartless people which includes me and you too.It’s just that i have a desire not to remain as one, and i am finding all those amongst you who like me want to break these shackles of selfishness.The words “I” and “Me” have overcomed “Us” and “We”.Life has become a course of endless greed, of materialism, power, temporary gains, and for some it is a harsh struggle to survive, to meet the basic needs of life, to smile, to feel…We are becoming so lifeless, because in our effort to be what we want, and in depriving others of there needs, by being cruel, we are losing so much life around and inside us, which can make us alive, and in return we can make millions around us breathe too!

How do you define compassion?For me it is feeling the pain of others, and trying to relieve it.There can be many ways to do so, charity, a smile, a pat on the back, a word like “You can do it next time!”, or “I am here for you!”, or an act which does it all without saying a word.This blog is an extremely bonafide attempt to make this dream possible!

I have a few stories to share on the way also, of anonymous people i met in my life, who made me ashamed of so much they did with such small gestures and words, which i could also have done, but never did.Sadly,  it never occured to me.They amazed me!

I need you all to post me pics and stories about any compassionate gesture you saw happening around you, any piece of poetry that lifts us to do more for others, any songs which can become an inspiration.Let’s turn this obnoxious world into hearts which feel and care, for themselves and others!